How Labeling Children Bullies (Or Victims) Taints Their Futures

You Have 2 Choices:

Be Your Child’s Champion For Greatness or Yet Another Challenge For Them To Overcome

If you have a child that has been labeled a bully or one who’s being bullied then learning the ways that we naturally differ is essential to your peace of mind, your child’s positive development and the foundation that will be laid for their mental and emotional stability, and ultimately their quality of life for whichever they are, the “bully” or the “victim”.

Understanding the natural elements that make up your child’s individuality, from temperament and multiple intelligences to the role environmental influences play, will increase your child’s self esteem and your bond with them.

Your Child is Uniquely Yours
Answers to “bad” behaviors are not one-size-fit-all. Your child is not like any other. If you have more than one child, they may have similarities, but they are different children. What works on one is not likely to work on the other.

The potential for conflict is inevitable.  Conflict does not have to create tension, but if you as a parent haven’t learned temperamental differences and intentionally become a student of your child’s nature you will not be able to guide them through conflicts, giving way to tension for your child when they expect you to have the answers.

Well, you’re in the right place.

When you understand how each child is designed to operate, you’ll also begin to understand why your child is producing particular behaviors and you can then apply workable solutions that produce desired results for each child; successful parenting depends on it. By 6 months old they’ve already shown you who they are, but IF you know how to read the signs they’re also cluing you in on how to best parent them; they’re telling you what they need.

Fundamental Basics
The origin of Psychology was established by Hippocrates, the father of medicine, and was based on temperament types: 4 basic fluids of the body that were later called Choleric, Sanguine, Phlegmatic and Melancholy. Hippocrates’ found that specified behaviors were consistent with each particular body fluid and that each person’s fluids were consistent.

Every person has an innate, customized design that produces the behaviors we see. They’re not random! Temperaments distinguish human behaviors more than any other factor. Here’s a brief review of each as I introduce my system What Is Your Priority? to understand them:

Sanguine: Focused on the why, usually looking for the fun in it and will create it if necessary; Idea Oriented.

Choleric: Focused on what needs to happen and has little concern for anything between them and their goal; Goal Oriented.

Phlegmatic: Focused on who is involved and concerned for everybody’s well-being. When the people are okay, then they are okay; People Oriented.

Melancholy: Focused on how things happen, seeks to understand process. Process grounds them; Task Oriented.

These are fundamental basics that distinguish each person’s individuality, although having knowledge of the basics are not enough to have the harmony every household yearns.  But with the right information and intention you can ground your children as individuals, significantly improve their interaction with others, and set them on a course for stable living in adulthood because of their childhood experiences.

Individuality fundamentals are the basis for unwavering self-esteem and it lays the foundation for resilience in our ever-changing world. Every parent wants this for their child, but not every parent understands how people differ enough to teach their children, but now you can.

Individuality fundamentals are totally eye-opening for parents and those who work with children.

What Is Your Priority? They will totally transform the way you perceive what a person does and you’ll have to revisit what you’ve considered “good vs. bad” behaviors, particularly the children who have been labeled a “bully.” They’re not bullies, but if you don’t acknowledge how they’re naturally different and communicate with them based on those differences they’ll make you regret it. Not because they’re “bad”, but because when they’re dismissed as “trouble” it’s their nature to create some. I know. I was labeled bad and bully. It along with how drastically different my family responded to the same circumstances is partly why I have a psychology degree, and absolutely why I’m so fascinated with studying individuality.

Don’t you want to learn better ways to love those you love? That’s really all that it boils down to. They deserve that. And you deserve a peaceful environment to love, and be loved.

End the drama.

 

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